In a five-room flat in Holland Drive, five-year-old Gerardin is playing with her mother’s bracelets. Her sister Carolyn, who is almost two, has just woken up from a nap and is toddling around the house curiously.

Their mother, Mrs Suparmi Foo, 29, is chatting with her neighbours at the dining table. In family photos hung on walls and propped up on shelves, the three are seen with the girls’ father and everyone is smiling.

But Mrs Foo’s voice trails off when she talks about her husband Edward Foo, 65, and she breaks into tears. He, a Singaporean man, had died of colon cancer in July, after a six-month battle with the disease.

On top of coping with the loss of her spouse, Mrs Foo, an Indonesian, is also worried about her future with her Singaporean children here.

“If I can, I want to stay here with my children. But now, everything is expensive and difficult for me because I am not a permanent resident,” she said, in a mix of English and Bahasa Indonesia.

She belongs to a group of foreign spouses who are left vulnerable after the marriage breaks down, or when their husbands or wives die or leave them due to reasons such as abuse, or abandonment.

Often, they do not have permanent residence in Singapore, and rely on their Singaporean partners or employers to apply for the relevant visit passes for them.

Mrs Foo, who is on a long-term visit pass (LTVP) which allows her to stay here for a year, speaks minimal English, is without a job, and gets by on savings her husband left her. While her situation is bleak, the silver lining has come in the form of neighbours who have rallied together to help her.

Mrs Joyce Cheong, 58, a housewife who lives in the same block, visits her at home almost daily and accompanies her on errands. Administrative staff Adeline Yeo, 56, teaches Mrs Foo to prepare simple meals, and helps her look out for second-hand household items.

When The Sunday Times visited Mrs Foo, Madam Yeo had just got her a small oven from another neighbour. Said Madam Yeo: “Suparmi is still young and has just lost a loved one. She used to be able to rely on her husband, but now he’s gone. It’s a very sad situation.”

Mrs Cheong added: “We try to help where we can. We chat with her and give her moral support.”

It is also thanks to the neighbours that Mrs Foo was able to be by her husband’s side when he died in July.

The couple had been living separately with Mrs Foo and her younger child in Batam, and her husband and their older girl in Singapore.

She had worked as Mr Foo’s domestic helper from 2007 to 2009, taking care of his diabetic mother, who died in 2014. Mr Foo’s father died many years back. Mr Foo was a sailor but had been unemployed for many years before he died. He was helping to take care of his mother.

The duo married in 2010 in Indonesia. Mrs Foo was subsequently barred from entering Singapore as she had violated a condition of her work permit. Anyone who has been in Singapore on a work permit cannot marry a Singaporean or permanent resident without the approval of the Manpower Ministry (MOM).

Mr Foo’s frequent trips to Batam with daughter Gerardin stopped when he became too ill to travel.

He learnt of his sickness, end-stage colon cancer, only in January this year. He broke the news to his wife over the phone. “I was so worried when he told me he had cancer. I wanted to come to Singapore but I couldn’t,” she said.

Mr Foo then asked his neighbours for help to get his wife over.

Mr Terry Shiau, 75, who learnt about Mr Foo’s plight from other long-time residents, said: “He just wanted to be with his family in his last days. So I helped him write to the authorities.”

After numerous e-mail exchanges with the MOM and Immigration and Checkpoints Authority, and with the help of their MP Chan Chun Sing, Mrs Foo came to Singapore in February. Her entry ban to Singapore was later lifted permanently, and she was granted the LTVP two weeks before her husband died.

Mr Shiau was at the ferry terminal at HarbourFront with fellow resident Thomas Choo, 69, to pick Mrs Foo up when she came over in February. By this time, Mr Foo was so weak that he had problems walking. But he was more cheerful with his wife and daughters by his side.

His next-door neighbour, 73-year-old Stewart Olivia Carole, who uses a wheelchair, also got her domestic helper Julita Castillo to prepare meals for him every day. Said Sister Olivia: “I told my helper to keep some food for Mr Foo. It’s not much, I just do what I can.”

With Mr Foo gone, so too was Mrs Foo’s strongest source of support. While she had worked in Singapore for two years, she is unfamiliar with places outside her estate and has no understanding of schemes and policies here.

Said Mr Choo, who helps to pick Gerardin from pre-school sometimes: “When her children fall ill, she doesn’t know that she can save money by taking them to the polyclinic. We all try to do what we can for her. If we can’t do it, we try to find someone who can.”

Mrs Cheong and Madam Yeo have been teaching Mrs Foo how to get to places on her own. They also take Gerardin out occasionally to malls and libraries to give Mrs Foo time to herself.

In Mrs Foo’s home, handwritten labels – “bicycle”, “bedroom”, “table”, “door” – were pasted around the flat, on items and pieces of furniture. Mrs Cheong had written them to teach the girls English.

Mrs Foo knows she is fortunate to have her neighbours by her side. “I really thank them,” she said.

The neighbours are not sure if Mrs Foo will be able to stay on in Singapore when her pass eventually expires, but it is one step at a time for now. Said Mr Shiau: “We don’t know what will happen after one year… But we’ve started helping her, and we can’t just stop halfway.”

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There have been suggestions from lawyers, social workers and politicians this year to extend the Appropriate Adult Scheme to cover minors and the elderly.

The call came after Benjamin Lim, 14, jumped to his death hours after attending a police interview in January.

His death generated discussion about police procedures when investigating minors, with State Coroner Marvin Bay suggesting last month that school counsellors accompany their charges to police stations as a “reassuring presence”.

The police have said they will consider the coroner’s suggestion and the Appropriate Adult Scheme in their ongoing review of the protocol for interviewing young persons.

In countries such as Britain, an “appropriate adult” – a parent, guardian or social worker – must sit in when the police question minors.

Ms Denise Phua, MP for Jalan Besar GRC, suggested that the scheme also cover the elderly with dementia.

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A rare sea creature once thought to be globally extinct was rediscovered in Singapore waters in 2011, to the delight of scientists. It now seems to be thriving.

Last month, researchers from the National Parks Board (NParks) found three more specimens of the Neptune’s cup sponge, bringing the total number to five.

The first time the sponge made an appearance after its disappearance in 1908 was near St John’s Island five years ago.

Scientists had discovered two sponges, but only one could be located by divers later because of murky waters and low visibility.

In 2014, another was found in a lagoon at the offshore Semakau landfill. It was later moved to the Sisters’ Islands Marine Park.

Dr Karenne Tun, director of the coastal and marine division at NParks’ National Biodiversity Centre, said: “As part of our species recovery programme, we wanted to move the one we found in 2011 to the one in Sisters’ Islands, so we did a survey to make sure it was in good condition and that we could move it.”

But during that dive last month, there was good visibility underwater and divers found the “lost” sponge from 2011.

“The better news is that because the visibility was good, we did a broader survey and found two more,” said Dr Tun. “So currently in Singapore, we have five individuals that we know of – we know where they are and we can monitor them.”

Tropical Marine Science Institute researcher Lim Swee Cheng, who is working with NParks on the Neptune’s cup sponge recovery programme, said the newly discovered sponges appear young – showing that the new individuals had developed recently.

“Their discovery could be due to an increase in diver surveys, or (the sponges) could have grown from larvae from neighbouring waters which settled in Singapore,” said Mr Lim. “The sponge has also recently been recorded in Australia and the Gulf of Thailand. I believe there are definitely more of them in our surrounding waters, such as the Malacca Strait and the Java Sea, waiting to be discovered.”

NParks is lending a hand to help the species recover after it was crippled because of overharvesting. Dr Tun said the next step is to see if the five sponges can be used as breeding stock to help repopulate Singapore’s waters.

To do this, Dr Tun and her team went on a dive two weeks ago to relocate one of the St John’s Island sponges to the Sisters’ Islands Marine Park, about 5m away from the other one there.

Removing the sponge from its original location was not an easy task, as about half of its metre-long body was buried in the seabed. To remove it safely without parts of it breaking off, the team had to dig up the sand around it.

Mr Koh Kwan Siong, manager of the coastal and marine division at the National Biodiversity Centre, who was part of the team that helped to relocate the sponge, said that this stirred up the sediment and reduced visibility.

Dr Tun told The Sunday Times: “Now that they are closer to each other, there is better opportunity for them to reproduce through sexual reproduction, giving them a better chance to spread the eggs around Singapore waters.”

Tropical Marine Science Institute’s Mr Lim said that this strategy may help to increase the chances of reproduction.

However, he pointed out: “It is also important to find out its life history – such as when the sponges reach sexual maturity, when they release the eggs and sperm…

“Only after these studies are done can we propagate this iconic species effectively.”

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