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Commentary: The dark underbelly of binge drinking among youths

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SINGAPORE: I have met young people in the course of my clinical consults who tell me they often purchase beer by the tower, in three-litre containers.

Enticed by the cheaper price per unit of alcohol from bars and clubs that usually price beer more attractively when purchased at high volumes, it seems cost-conscious youths will opt for such high volumes of alcohol which then predisposes them to binge drinking.

These anecdotal stories form a dark underbelly of our national drinking habits, even though figures on problem drinking seem to suggest drinking is not a problem here. Singapore has a very low rate of problem drinking, if you look at the alcohol abuse and dependence rates from the 2010 Singapore Mental Health Study (3.1 per cent and 0.5 per cent) respectively.

But when you look at the rates of heavy drinking, these are more substantial with 12 month prevalence and lifetime prevalence standing at 12.6 per cent and 15.9 per cent respectively. Where heavy drinking can herald the onset of abuse and dependence, these are worrying statistics.

BINGE DRINKING MORE PREVALENT AMONG YOUTHS

The problem of excessive and binge drinking is more prevalent among those aged 18 to 34 based on the 2010 Singapore Mental Health Study. Binge drinking, defined as having five or more standard drinks in a single sitting for males, and four or more drinks in a single sitting for females is particularly harmful even in the absence of established disorders like alcohol abuse or dependence.

Youths who binge drink are predisposed to risky sexual behaviour, sudden death due to intoxication, cognitive impairment, poor academic performance and other physical health problems. Many of the dangers of heavy alcohol drinking are long term consequences not immediately apparent to those who drink. Hence, many brush such concerns aside.

Over time, this seemingly innocuous behaviour of heavy drinking takes its toll when repeated consistently over time. Alcohol affects not just the liver, but also the heart, brain, nerves and other vital organs.

Heavy drinking can lead to a host of health problems, including the impairment of cognitive abilities like the ability to recall. (Photo: AFP) 

Many of my patients present themselves to a doctor too late, when liver failure has set in or when their memories have become impaired to the point where it seems as if early dementia has set in. Very little can be done to reverse the damage in such cases.

An important issue not often talked about when it comes to youth drinking is the combination of energy drinks with alcoholic beverages, where drinks like the Jagerbomb have become common names in many bars and clubs. Such alcoholic beverages reduce the subjective perception of intoxication through the stimulating effects of caffeine containing energy drinks.

Some youth may end up drinking more than they can handle as their system tricks them into thinking that they are not intoxicated. This is highly dangerous as it can lead to alcohol poisoning and in extreme cases, death.

HAVE CONVERSATIONS ABOUT DRINKING

It is critical we have honest conversations with our youth about the dangers of drinking in the hope of preventing such scenarios. Such an element of education could perhaps be incorporated into our school curriculum.

This conversation must be carried out with a firm understanding of the underlying motives behind youth drinking heavily if we are to have a reasonable chance of changing such attitudes. This requires having an understanding of what youth go through as well as how they think and feel. 

Education in and of itself is insufficient; empathy is the more critical element. While many of the harmful effects are commonly known, knowledge alone does not change behaviour.

As youths, a vast majority seek validation from their peers, have expansive amounts of energy and a feeling of invincibility.

So it’s unsurprising that drinking commonly does not occur alone at home but rather in social settings among friends. There is a strong element of peer influence and the need to be accepted when it comes to development of habits, even bad ones.

Binge drinking can start innocuously, with one drink with friends a week (Photo: Marcus Mark Ramos)

Furthermore, when there are no healthy recreational activities to replace such bad habits, the problem continues.

Very often, it begin insidiously. One or two drinks a week can quickly escalate into several drinks a day especially when edged on by peers. The effect of alcohol as a social lubricant can be highly addictive especially in youths who feel a need to impress or who are otherwise socially inept. Soon, drinking can become almost second nature.

We also cannot underestimate the influence from role models. When youths see instances of their parents or peers drinking heavily and becoming intoxicated, these incidents normalise their attitudes towards heavy drinking.

The media also has an important role to play. Advertisements promoting alcohol have a role in reinforcing the notion that alcohol is cool and socially acceptable through the beautiful men and women portrayed. It seems more could be done to discuss the image alcohol has among youths and highlight the dangers of drinking beyond that of drink driving.

The Government’s move a few years ago to restrict the purchase of alcohol in places like convenience stores and supermarkets after certain hours will indeed affect youth who have limited purchasing power to drink in licensed waterholes but in and of itself may not do much to fill the void these youths feel.

Managing demand is just as important as curtailing supply.

Here is where we can learn from the Icelandic model that has recently made the news for reducing drinking in their youth substantially. These communities have learnt how fostering healthier options and activities for their youth to take part in can reduce problematic drinking among youths.

They have seen how having such alternative activities, such as volunteering, attending self-improvement classes and taking part in sports help foster a sense of well-being and positive self-regard in youth.

Some experts have said the opposite of addiction isn’t staying clean and being free from a substance – it’s establishing a connection. That is true in some ways as having meaningful connections with other people, especially older peers and adults help our youths learn appropriate coping skills and develop healthy attitudes, thereby reducing the chances of heavy drinking.

The golden adage that it takes a village to raise a child cannot be more apt when applied in this scenario.

Youths are at higher risk of binge drinking with its negative consequences. Public education, having good role models and mobilising the community to promote alternative activities for our youth would go a long way to reduce the harms from heavy drinking. Exercising caution on the sale of combination drinks and beer en mass to our youth would help too.

There is no simple answer to preventing youth from drinking heavily. All of us can play a role by being a mentor or coach or at the very least by demonstrating responsible drinking behaviour.

Lambert Low is a consultant at the Institute of Mental Health’s National Addictions Management Service.  

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Fresh out of prison, and trying to keep up with Singapore

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SINGAPORE: Much has changed in the last five years. Apps offering all kinds of services including food delivery have become part of daily life. Cashless payments have become more popular, and social media has become about more than just keeping in touch.

Most people would welcome the changes for the convenience they bring. But they are overwhelming for Lee Desmond Trevena, 47, He was released from prison on Nov 21 after spending five years behind bars. As far as he is concerned, that is “long enough”.

“It may not sound like a big deal, but I’m just getting used to new apps and what they have to offer, and relying on them. I have a fear of the unknown,” he said.

Before Mr Lee went to jail for drug abuse in March 2013, he had a smartphone, but he used it only for making calls and sending text messages. Mr Lee is slowly getting re-acquainted with what it takes to live in Singapore now, piecing together information from friends and family. 

His wife told him about app-based food delivery services, about being able to pay bills through a bank app, as opposed to a SAM or AXS machine, and about using ATM cards without having to key in a PIN.

He also got a glimpse of Facebook when his friend busied himself with checking for updates during their meeting. He has got up to speed with Uber and Grab as a common transport option, including the ability to travel without cash, as the apps can be linked to debit and credit cards.

“It’s like nowadays, you don’t need cash to survive, as long as you have a job and a phone.”

HELPING EX-OFFENDERS GET BACK INTO THE GROOVE

To help Mr Lee and others like him, the Industrial and Services Co-operative Society (ISCOS) has from April been running a programme to arm them with basic information that they would need to restart their lives. ISCOS functions under the purview of the Ministry of Home Affairs. 

Channel NewsAsia accompanied a group of about 10 former offenders on the one-day programme called Project ReConnect. 

They were guided on how to reset their SingPass, and given forms to apply for the Community Health Assist Scheme (CHAS). The scheme will allow them to receive subsidised medical and dental care at participating clinics.

The ex-offenders on a bus to The Salvation Army in a bus sponsored by the Goldbell Foundation. (Photo: Jalelah Abu Baker)

They were also shown the MRT map, and how to use Google Maps to navigate in Singapore. 

After the briefing, they were taken by bus to Salvation Army’s biggest outlet in Upper Bukit Timah to buy items at a low price, and sign up for a discount card. 

The next stop was Tanjong Pagar Community Club, where they reset their SingPass using the password they came up with. 

They also tried out the self-service checkout kiosks at the neighbourhood FairPrice supermarket.

Then it was off to Tanjong Pagar MRT station to get acquainted with the new train lines.

Deputy director Elvis Overee said ISCOS developed the programme based on findings and feedback from a focus group discussion on the immediate areas of needs and support required for ex-offenders.

“We received feedback from inmates during our prison briefings that they require guidance in their initial post-release days to familiarise themselves with the transport system, landscape and services offered by after-care agencies and the community.”

The organisation also relies on observations and feedback from the ongoing sessions to fine-tune and improve the programmes so that they remain relevant and practical to the participants, he added.

As of Dec 6, 172 ex-offenders had attended the weekly voluntary sessions.

PROGRAMME HELPS IN IMMEDIATE POST-RELEASE PERIOD

Mr Lee found the programme helpful. “After so many years, we are not sure who to turn to, where to go, and how to start on the right foot. It helps us familiarise ourselves with how society has changed,” he said.

Ex-offenders who attended Project ReConnect visit Tanjong Pagar Community Club to reset their Singpass. (Photo: Jalelah Abu Baker)

Pastor Philip Chan, co-founder of a halfway house called The Hiding Place, said that the programme will be useful for those just released from prison, especially if they have spent a long time behind bars.

“In areas like transport and government assistance, they need help. They have been away for a long time, so they may not know where they can go for training, support and monetary assistance,” he said.

ISCOS’ Mr Overee said Project ReConnect is different from others.

It focuses on the initial post-release days for ex-offenders to learn skills that are essential for daily living and to stay attuned to the fast-changing world. 

The other reintegration programmes tend to emphasise employment, counseling and social activities, he said. 

Mr Lee at a self-service kiosk at Fairprice supermarket. (Photo: Jalelah Abu Baker)

Mr Overee said: “All these are equally important but may not address the immediate need of the ex-offenders who have lost touch with the community, particularly in the first five to 10  days after release.”

Bringing them to the places in person and addressing their concerns and questions face-to-face give them a sense of assurance and confidence in navigating the themselves after the session, he added.

However, he felt that more needs to be done to reintegrate ex-offenders. Community acceptance and support are crucial, Mr Overee said, suggesting more positive stories about ex-offenders to encourage a shift in mindset.

He also suggested that more needs to be done to prepare and encourage ex-offenders, especially the older ones to leverage on new technology as Singapore moves towards being a Smart Nation.

“Ex-offenders who are not familiar with technology are exposed to the risk of being “left behind” at a disadvantage, for example, when they compete for opportunities in the job market,” he said.

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IU named S Korea's singer of the year in survey

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IU has been chosen as the top singer of the year in an annual poll.

Gallup Korea canvassed 4,200 people aged 13 to 59 across the country from July 6-26, Sept. 1-29 and Nov. 8-28, and the singer took the top spot, racking up 15.2 per cent of total votes.

Having debuted in 2008, IU released many chart-sweeping songs, including “Good Day,” “You & I” and “The Red Shoes.” In 2014, the singer was named best singer of the year in the survey as her cover album “A Flower Bookmark” gained popularity among all age groups.

Girl group Twice, which had a prolific year with its hits “Knock Knock,” “Signal,” “Likey” and “Heart Shaker,” came in at second with 9.1 per cent.

Trot singer Jang Yun-jeong came in third with 8.9 per cent while global K-pop sensation BTS came in at No. 4 with 8.5 per cent. Following BTS on the list were Yoon Jong-shin, Wanna One, EXO, Big Bang, Im Chang-jung and Lee Sun-hee.

 

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Why Leonardo DiCaprio almost didn’t play Jack Dawson in Titanic

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Twenty years ago, Titanic made its debut in theatres. I will give you a few seconds to queue up “My Heart Will Go On” on your Spotify playlist before you freak out at how fast time flies.

It may not be the most profound movie as compared to the other Oscar-winning films we’ve seen. It’s not as socially relevant as 12 Years a Slave, there is no convoluted plot similar to The Departed but it is no doubt a classic. We still have space in our hearts for Leonardo DiCaprio’s boyish looks and have arguments if Kate Winslet’s character Rose could have allowed Jack on the door she was floating on.

As we remember the movie for its pop culture significance and how much we still refer to it, here are fun facts you should know about the film.

#1 Shot on the wrong sea

Titanic has a lot of famous scenes such as the “I’m the King of the World” one complete with a shot of dolphins swimming past the ship. If you want to be geeky about it, those dolphins belong nowhere the North Atlantic Ocean where the Titanic sailed. According to the movie’s IMDB page, they are Pacific white-sided dolphins. But, hey, Jack is still king of the world.

#2 Leo almost didn’t land the part

It’s hard to think of Jack Dawson being played by someone other than Leonardo DiCaprio. But it’s said that the stuido initially wanted Matthew McConauhey to play Jack. Director James Cameron insisted on Leo, however and it turned out to be alright, alright, alright.

#3 The great debate

In an interview with Stephen Colbert, Kate Winslet said that indeed Jack could have shared the door with her to avoid being frozen to death. So yes, Jack died for nothing and just out of sheer foolishness for the sake of their love being more romantic. The lesson is clear here: Always share the space on the floating door when waiting for a rescue team in the middle of the ocean.

#4 James drew Rose like one of his French girls

In the same interview, Kate revealed that it was James Cameron who drew her. You will already notice that the hands seen when the camera focused on the drawing were too old to be Leo’s. Yes, you can totally use this as an excuse to watch Titanic all over again to spot the inconsistency.

#5 It’s not over yet

Kate may have one opinion about the surface area of the door. James has another one. Sorry, the debate is never going to be over. Put this argument right next to Ross and Rachel’s “We were on a break” karfuffle. In an interview with Vanity Fair, James says to the question, “And the answer is very simple because it says on page 147 [of the script] that Jack dies. Very simple…Obviously it was an artistic choice, the thing was just big enough to hold her, and not big enough to hold him…I think it’s all kind of silly, really, that we’re having this discussion 20 years later. But it does show that the film was effective in making Jack so endearing to the audience that it hurts them to see him die.”

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Hourly fireworks, more activities at Marina Bay Countdown 2018

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SINGAPORE: Fireworks on the hour and a wider range of activities spread over four areas are some of the highlights revellers can look forward to as they usher in the new year at the upcoming Marina Bay Countdown 2018. 

More than 350,000 people are expected to turn up for Singapore’s largest New Year Countdown, organisers announced at a media conference on Thursday (Dec 21). 

The event, which is in its 13th instalment, is organised by the Urban Redevelopment Authority (URA).

This year, the public will be able to enjoy firework displays in a new, linear configuration along the bay. The displays – every hour starting at 8.05pm – will each be a minute long, except the final one at the stroke of midnight, which will last six minutes.

Other highlights include more places to catch the light shows. In addition to Fullerton Hotel – where the five-minute facade projections will take place every 30 minutes from Dec 26 to New Year’s Eve, the public can also turn their attention to the Merlion and the exterior of the Art Science Museum, which will display light projections from Dec 29 onwards.

This year’s countdown will also feature a host of activities spread across four activity hubs. These will be at The Float @ Marina Bay where the public can enjoy the fireworks as well as shopping, the Promontory and the Bayfront Event Space for the Prudential Marina Bay Carnival and the adjacent Civic District, which will be turned into a car-free zone.

URA’s place management director Jason Chen said this is to cater to different interests. 

For example, museums in the Civic District will have a series of activities and programmes and opening hours will be extended all the way to midnight, Mr Chen said. 

Activities will be held in museums such as the Asian Civilisations Museum at Empress Place. (Photo: URA)

Mr Chen added URA is working closely with the police and other authorities to ensure the security and safety of revellers.

“There are necessary plans put in place to allow us to manage the crowd effectively. For example for (crowd) dispersal, we hope that the public can also exercise some patience and understanding as we try to allow the crowd to disperse from the area after the entire event is over.”

Separately, the Singapore Police Force said in a statement that a number of units have been mobilised for the event. These include the Auxiliary Police for crowd control and officers from the Special Operations Command, Public Transport Security Command and Emergency Response Teams.

Officers will regulate the number of people entering the various areas, and in the event of overcrowding, certain exits of MRT stations around the Marina Bay may be closed and the crowd diverted to other areas.

A number of areas including St Andrew’s Road, Fullerton Road (between Esplanade Drive and Connaught Drive), Connaught Drive and Bayfront Avenue in the direction of Temasek Avenue, will also be closed to traffic overnight.

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New interactive light attraction unveiled at Marina Bay Sands

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SINGAPORE: Visitors to Marina Bay Sands (MBS) will be able to interact with a light display with their footsteps or a tap on their mobile phones with the launch of a new permanent attraction on Friday (Dec 22). 

Digital Lab Canvas, created by Japanese art collective teamLab, features a 14m-tall light sculpture suspended 6m above the ground, above an LED floor that spans 15m in diameter. 

The light sculpture consists of more than 401,000 full-coloured LEDs. (Photo: Jeremy Long)

The light sculpture consists of more than 401,000 full-coloured LEDs strung with 608 tubes hanging within the cylindrical sculpture. 

These LEDs are energy efficient but are three times brighter than normal LEDs, MBS said in a fact sheet. 

Meanwhile, the LED floor consists of more than 7.7 million individually controlled LEDs that render graphics based on the behaviour and movement of people on the floor. 

The graphics shown on the LED floor adapt to visitor movements in real-time. (Photo: Jeremy Long)

Multi-coloured fish “swimming” around the exhibit. (Photo: Jeremy Long)

Visitors can cast elements such as fireworks and festive ornaments on the installation using their mobile devices by scanning a QR code, according to MBS. 

The display has three “show modes” accompanied by unique soundtracks, MBS said. 

Nature’s Rhythm will show flocks of fishes and birds moving in a “unified purpose”, Strokes of Life will feature a “contemporary form of traditional Japanese calligraphy”, birds, butterflies and flowers to depict life, while Festive Celebration is an interactive 4D vision light sculpture that allows users to activate light elements using their smartphones during celebratory periods. 

As part of Strokes of Life, visitors can customise a message – such as a marriage proposal or birthday wish – on the display. This is done through a one-time unique serial code which costs S$50 and is activated on their mobile devices. 

The new attraction is located at the North Promenade of The Shoppes at MBS, where there was previously a skating rink. 

The LED floor consists of more than 7.7 million individually controlled LEDs. (Photo: Jeremy Long)

Asked why the skating rink was replaced, an MBS spokesperson said the new attraction was part of the company’s reinvestment strategy to refresh its offerings. 

MBS vice president of retail John Postle said the company wanted to create “an experience that keeps on evolving – one that not only aspires to evoke people’s imagination but also to draw them to visit again and again”. 

Digital Light Canvas will also reflect seasons throughout the year, Mr Postle added. 

The ticketed attraction costs S$5 for general admission. It is open from 12pm to 8pm on Sundays to Thursdays and from 12pm to 9pm on Fridays, Saturdays and on the eve of public holidays. 

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Singapore cryptocurrency cafe launches as regulators sound warnings

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SINGAPORE – Just a street away from Singapore’s central bank, a cryptocurrency firm has set up what it claims is the first cafe in the city-state to be owned and operated by a business promoting its own digital coin.

The downtown pitstop, which launched on Thursday, sells “hand brew” coffee, sandwiches and eco-friendly beauty products and accepts bitcoin, its own virtual currency called Ducatus and other cashless payments.

Its push to promote the use of its own currency through commercial enterprise, rather than speculative investment, comes the same week the Monetary Authority of Singapore urged investors to exercise “extreme caution” towards the cryptocurrency market, which many feel is in a bubble.

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“We just want to make sure people understand that cryptocurrencies are here to stay,” Ducatus CEO Ronny Tome told Reuters, adding he had plans to open more cafes in other countries and team up with hotels and travel agencies.

“The way technology develops and grows right now, there is no doubt about that. Developments are rapid and the governments maybe have a little bit of an issue to follow through.”

Tome said he welcomed Singapore’s efforts to educate people about cryptocurrencies, including warnings against speculative behaviour, but did not think it would impact his business.

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The booming global interest in cryptocurrencies means Singapore – which has positioned itself as a hub for financial technology in Asia – has to walk a fine line between encouraging technological innovation and reducing financial system risk within its borders.

While the central bank worries about potential losses for its citizens and money laundering through cryptocurrencies, it is carrying out extensive research into the blockchain distributed ledger technology that underlies bitcoin.

Anson Zeall, who heads a local association of cryptocurrency firms in Singapore, said that while the country promotes itself as an easy place to do business for fintechs, banks have been shutting down accounts of some cryptocurrency firms and exchanges in recent years.

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Singapore’s concerns echo those expressed by regulators in other jurisdictions such as Australia and South Korea.

Deloitte’s head of financial crime for Asia Pacific, Tim Phillipps, expects policymakers’ warnings will only increase as the virtual currency investment community broadens.

“The regulators generally around the world are worried about less sophisticated investors getting drawn in to what is a pretty murky and dark market,” said Phillipps.

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7 celebrity siblings we can't get enough of

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As the saying goes, “good looks and talent runs in the family”, so it comes as no surprise to see celebrities following in their siblings’ footsteps to stardom.

While there are some under-the-radar siblings that may not be as renowned as their celebrity brother or sister, they are instrumental in shaping your favourite celebrities into people we love.

Plus, they are also super talented stars in their own right.

Here are a few celeb siblings you knew about, as well as a couple that may come as a surprise:

Taeyang and Hyun-bae

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Though South Korean heartthrob Taeyang from boy band Big Bang might be the more recognisable sibling, his older brother Hyun-bae is accomplished as well. Since his acting debut in 2006, 34-year-old Hyun-bae has appeared in movies and dramas such as “Age of Youth”, “Shut up: flower boy band” and “Holy Land”.

It might be difficult to live under the shadow of a successful younger brother like Taeyang but Hyun-bae who is signed to MGB Entertainment has carved out an identity for himself. He recently appeared in the widely acclaimed drama series, “The Best Hit”.

CL and Harin Lee

Photo: Harin Lee/Instagram

As chiselled features run in this talented family, it comes as no shocker that South Korean singer CL’s younger sister is a model. Apart from juggling her modelling career, the 22-year-old is also currently pursuing accounting and finance at the Hong Kong University.

Earlier this year, the Hong Kong University undergrad posted a picture of her and her sister along with a long heartfelt caption where she recounts a very dark period in her life and how CL walked her through the tough times, “But I guess my ugly and real emotions and behaviour must have manifested themselves subconsciously, so my sister reached out to me and asked if I wanted to travel and work with her after I take a leave of absence from school. And for those 2 years I took the leave of absence, I saw, learned, and experienced many things. I realised I had been cornering myself in an already small world, and I’d never looked back or reflected on myself”.

Christopher and Frederick Lee

Photo: Frederick Lee/Instagram

Did you know that Christopher Lee had a brother? Judging from Frederick’s boyish good looks, it’s clear that the gene pool didn’t leave him hanging. The 41-year-old youngest brother of local actor Christopher Lee is signed to Catwalk, the same Taiwanese agency the latter is signed to. Frederick has come a long way since his humble beginnings as an odd jobs worker.

At one point, the Malaysian actor worked as an illegal worker in Singapore for two weeks, installing ducting for air-conditioning. He recently made his first big screen debut, starring in the movie, “You Mean The World To Me”, where he plays a struggling director who tries to raise funds to make an autobiographical film.

Sandara Park and Thunder

Photo: Sandara Park/Instagram

Former 2NE1 member Sandara Park isn’t the only one in the family that is genetically blessed, the singer has a gorgeous younger brother, Thunder, who is also a musician. The duo recently teamed up to host the TVN Asia travel programme, “One Night Food Trip International” where they travelled to the Philippines.

Sandara recently shared this snapshot from their trip together with the tongue-in-cheek caption, “Selfie…failed..give me some of your height Doonga”.

Benjamin and Narelle Kheng

Photo: Benjamin Kheng/Instagram

When it comes to a duo that serves up major style inspo, we can’t think of a more perfect pair than this pair of talented siblings from local indie band The Sam Willows. Both Benjamin and Narelle have a lot to be proud of.

Apart from playing in the band, the duo has also diversified their portfolio by branching out into hosting and acting. Most recently, Narelle became the leading lady in the Toggle Original series “Lifespam” while Benjamin made his film debut in the biographical movie “Wonder Boy”.

Jessica and Krystal Jung

Photo: Krystal Jung/Instagram

Having been in the K-pop scene since 2007, former Girls’ Generation member Jessica Jung definitely blazed the trail for little sis Krystal. Whether they are on air or in front of their fans, the dynamic duo are not afraid to display their sisterly love.

In 2014, the pair of Korean American sisters starred in “Jessica & krystal”, a reality variety show that documented the normal everyday life of the two K-pop starlets as sisters and friends.

Hayley and Jayley Woo

Photo: Hayley Woo/Instagram

Even though they might be identical twins, there’s no doubt that both of them are stars in their own right. The pint size actresses got their start in showbiz after joining talent seach competition, The New Paper New Face, in 2011. Since then, the pair have gone on to appear in movies like “That Girl In Pinafore” and theatre productions like “Chef: Bimbimbap VS Chili Crab”.

This article was first published in Her World Online.

 

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A single mother’s only wish: For brain-damaged son ‘to one day get up, walk, talk, live a normal life’

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SINGAPORE: Every morning he wakes up, listens to the radio and has a glass of milk. There is more variety in the afternoon with either a bowl of soup or some fruit juice, ingested via a long, thin plastic tube punched under the waxen skin of his belly.

Sundays are special: The only chance for his lanky, feeble frame to be wheeled out of the Tampines flat shared with his mother and helper, and taken to church.

Clement Lee, 38, cannot move nor make a sound. When he attempts to do so, he ends up coughing – and that’s him trying to say or ask for something, according to his mother Leong Poh Yin.

“Sometimes he also puts on very pained facial expressions, like he’s vaguely conscious of his surroundings,” said the 71-year-old in Mandarin.

The last time her youngest son was fully aware and fully in control of his faculties, he was hurtling through the air, milliseconds away from landing head-first on a car’s windscreen –  an impact that would crack his helmet and severely damage his brain.

It was November 1999 and Mr Lee, a budding fighter pilot and Anglo-Chinese alumnus from primary school through to junior college, was riding a newly-purchased motorbike when the car barrelled into his rear, putting him on an emergency surgery table.

A part of his skull was carved out to treat a blood clot in his brain, which underwent massive swelling over the next few days. Then his liver and kidneys shut down, and the family was asked to consider removing life support.

But Mr Lee survived and went home in October 2000. The doctor said he wouldn’t “be able to do anything”, and had five more years at best.

“It’s been 18 years now – 13 more than he’s supposed to live,” said Mdm Leong.

An old, undated photo of Mr Lee during his pilot training in Australia.

“WE STILL CAN GET BY”

There was compensation of “a few hundred thousand dollars” from the driver of the car who hit Mr Lee, though the topic appeared to ignite a spark of fury in the otherwise soft-spoken Mdm Leong.

“At first he wasn’t willing to pay up. He even claimed it was Clement’s fault for crashing into him head-on,” she recalled. “So we had to get a forensic report on how the front of Clement’s bike was unspoilt, but the back – the exhaust pipe was bent upwards from the impact.”

Mdm Leong was equally riled by the memory of the first helper she employed upon Mr Lee’s discharge from hospital.

“She was with us for nine years, and seemed to be taking care of him very well, but during her last days here she told the new (incoming) helper she’d been brewing soup and blending fruits for herself and not Clement,” said Mdm Leong.

“She said ‘Give him soup and fruit juice, he will get better meh?’”

Then there was the helper who showed up, saw Mr Lee and said she was “scared” to look after him.

If she cannot trust someone else to look after her son, why not retire and stay home?  “I’m not strong enough to carry him,” said Mdm Leong, who is divorced. “And I feel I need to go out and work.”

There was a tinge of embarrassment here, which quickly dissipated when the mom to two other older children – and granny to four – proudly shared how her salary as a long-time supermarket meat promoter was recently raised from S$1,000 to S$1,100 in October this year.

“We still can get by,” said Mdm Leong, pointing out that Mr Lee’s father, brother and sister chip in to help out with the helper’s wages, while his medical bills have been covered by both insurance payouts and the compensation.

Scars from the multiple surgeries Mr Lee underwent after the accident.

ROOM FOR ALTRUISM

A year before her son’s calamity, Mdm Leong was watching a TV programme on child sponsorship by humanitarian organisation World Vision. It didn’t take much convincing for her to sign up – and even now, she still sends S$45 a month to Nardrudee Jaiping, an 18-year-old student in Thailand.

The daughter to farmers in a rural province has had access to transport, clean water, food, healthcare, education and other essentials, thanks to Mdm Leong’s self-professed “small amount” of money.

Nardrudee, pictured here in 2011, is currently in junior high school and counts jumping rope as her hobby.

“When I was young, I didn’t have much of an opportunity to study,” said Mdm Leong, who was brought up to be a bondmaid after her financially-strapped birth parents gave her up for adoption. 

Mdm Leong’s adoptive mother did not deem an education necessary, so she stopped after the PSLE.

“So if I can help these kids have a chance to go to school, I should. Studies are so important, and you really lose out a lot without an education.”  

An award given to Mdm Leong for being one of World Vision’s longest-running child sponsors.

Mdm Leong was also a member of Lions Befrienders – a welfare agency providing friendship to senior citizens – for over a decade, and continues to frequently volunteer at church.

Pressing her to explain the motivation behind these endeavours proved futile – if only because it is truly plain, simple, intrinsic to her: “There are people who need help. If I can, just help.”

In this reporter’s presence, Mr Lee seemed to only be able to move his right eye.

LIVING DAY TO DAY

Yet it seems to be out of Mdm Leong’s hands when it comes to the one person she wants to help most of all – and this is something she embraces and resists at the same time.

Mr Lee’s condition has vacillated over the years. In the beginning he could yawn and stretch, and his lower limbs still reacted to being tapped on the kneecap.

Then under the previous maid’s negligence, he would constantly fall ill and be in and out of hospital, said Mdm Leong.

While the last six to seven years have seen slight improvements, Mdm Leong herself is getting on in age – she used to also moonlight as a seamstress working out of home, until her eyesight started deteriorating.

“I’ve not thought about these things,” she said. “I just want to be able to look after myself, not be bedridden, and still active so I can look after Clement too.”

“If I’m to suddenly leave this world…His brother and sister still care for him, and I hope they will continue.”

“But what I desire the most… What I often pray for…” Mdm Leong’s voice quivered. “Is to have him one day get up, walk around, talk, live a normal life.”

One of Mdm Leong’s most treasured pictures – that of her son celebrating a birthday in happier times.

(Photos: Justin Ong)

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Indonesian fan attempts suicide following Jonghyun's death

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Following Jonghyun’s untimely death that spread grief around the globe, an Indonesial female fan’s recent suicide attempt has sparked a possible copycat suicide alert.

According to Indonesian media reports Thursday, the fan was found unconscious from an overdose and hospitalised in an apparent suicide attempt. On Monday she left suicidal posts on her Twitter account, the day Jonghyun passed away.

She wrote, “I can’t endure it anymore. Mom, dad, Jonghyun oppa, we’ll meet really soon” in both Korean and English. It is also reported that in a previous post she wrote, “Should I give up my life for now since I lost both of my parents and my idol? It’s stressing me out.”

Indonesian media reported that the fan gained consciousness Tuesday afternoon, regretting her behaviour. She shut down her Twitter account after leaving thank you messages to fellow fans for worrying about her.

In the wake of the incident, concerns have risen that the K-pop act’s suicide might have a contagious effect on young fans who may emulate self-destructive behaviour, known as “the Werther effect.”

According to Bangkok Post, the Department of Mental Health in Thailand has released a statement warning parents to monitor their children’s behaviour to see if there are any changes following Jonghyun’s death. Indonesian media also reported that another female fan fainted after refusing any food or drinks in shock of the superstar’s death.

Jonghyun was found unconscious at a rented studio apartment in Seoul on Monday. He was pronounced dead shortly after being sent to a hospital. Investigators ruled it a suicide. His funeral took place at Seoul Asan Hospital Thursday, attended by family members, as well as officials and artists of S.M. Entertainment.

A black and white memorial for SHINee’s Jonghyun by Singaporean fans at Hong Lim Park

HELPLINES

  • Samaritans of Singapore (SOS): 1800-2214444
  • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-2837019
  • Sage Counselling Centre: 1800-5555555
  • Care Corner Mandarin Counselling: 1800-3535800

Thursday, December 21, 2017 – 17:01

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